best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one available.
to wait for the one you love than one who's around.
to wait for the right one because life's too short to be wasted
on just someone.
African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both
eyes open... and after you marry, close one eye."
you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust,
desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low
self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone
or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws, vulnerabilities,
pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve,
you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little
thing bother you.
and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs,
values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.
one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?
you bring out the best in each other?
you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,
compare and control?
do you bring to the relationship?
you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
can't take someone to the altar because you want to alter them.
can't make someone love you, or make someone stay.
you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life,"
you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your
happiness or responsible for your pain.
control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients
of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
keeps a relationship strong?
- a sense of humor
- sharing household tasks
- some getaway time without business or children
- daily exchanges(a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch,
- sharing common goals and interests
- giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
- giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of
these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment,
withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.
long as we have memories, yesterday remains. As long as we have
hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we have friendship, today is beautiful."
is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance
in a relationship and find out that you still care for that person.
is being able to walk arm in arm..... even when you don't see eye
say goodbye when you still want to try. Never give up when you still
feel you can take it. Never say you no longer love a person when
you can't let go.
you love someone, tell them, for hearts are often broken
by words left unspoken!